Respecting Relationship Boundaries:

Every human relationship is moderated by " relationship boundaries ". We need to respect persons &
their boundaries. The Church teaches that sexual union is permitted only in a spouses relationship, all sexual encounters outside marriage is immoral. 

1. PRE-MARITAL-SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP

Entered  by those unmarried or in preparation for marriage.
Why is Pre-Marital Sex Wrong?

1.  They behave as spouses before they become. Sexual intercourse is a  "typical expression",and unique to
     marital union. Hence to perform it they should be married couples.
2.  They distort and reduce the marriage commitment.
*   The decisive act of self - giving and acceptance is valid if expressed in a particular moment
     of time. ( celebration of sacrament)
     This commitment is not a private affair but has to be made publicly.
3.  They point to a false language.
*   Sexual act  is a language which is deep and expressed between two married people.
*   Sexual interaction uses a deep and exclusive language. In PMS they use a language and
     do not mean it. Therefore, it is cheating. They give their bodies but not themselves.
     Therefore no self-giving. It is dissection of the person, they give their bodies but not their inner selves.
4.  They act intentionally against the procreative end of marriage - use of contraception.
5.  One cannot use persons, but only things. The sexual gesture is done without any interior meaning.
6.  Such actions leave in them a deep sense of psychological incompleteness.
*   whole person not involved.
*   develop a ' playboy  and playgirl psychology'.


For those preparing for marriage the Church would say: Genuine Love is tested by its openness to
make sacrifices.