Respecting Relationship Boundaries:

Every human relationship is moderated by " relationship boundaries ". We need to respect persons &
their boundaries. The Church teaches that sexual union is permitted only in a spouses relationship, all sexual encounters outside marriage is immoral. 

1. PRE-MARITAL-SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP

Entered  by those unmarried or in preparation for marriage.
Why is Pre-Marital Sex Wrong?

1.  They behave as spouses before they become. Sexual intercourse is a  "typical expression",and unique to
     marital union. Hence to perform it they should be married couples.
2.  They distort and reduce the marriage commitment.
*   The decisive act of self - giving and acceptance is valid if expressed in a particular moment
     of time. ( celebration of sacrament)
     This commitment is not a private affair but has to be made publicly.
3.  They point to a false language.
*   Sexual act  is a language which is deep and expressed between two married people.
*   Sexual interaction uses a deep and exclusive language. In PMS they use a language and
     do not mean it. Therefore, it is cheating. They give their bodies but not themselves.
     Therefore no self-giving. It is dissection of the person, they give their bodies but not their inner selves.
4.  They act intentionally against the procreative end of marriage - use of contraception.
5.  One cannot use persons, but only things. The sexual gesture is done without any interior meaning.
6.  Such actions leave in them a deep sense of psychological incompleteness.
*   whole person not involved.
*   develop a ' playboy  and playgirl psychology'.


For those preparing for marriage the Church would say: Genuine Love is tested by its openness to
make sacrifices.

II. Extra - Marital Affairs

Adultery can be Single or Double depending on whether one or both are married.
Why is Extra- Marital Affair  (EMA) wrong?

1.      The word given on the wedding day is a serious word. They contradict the significance of the sexual
         gesture performed with the spouse.
         Sexual gesture points to a reciprocal gift and interior union. Relationship with a third party contradicts it.

2.     Sexual acts in Marriage expresses a fundamental option for the spouse.
        Extra Marital Act directly compromises two persons in reciprocal choice and self- donation

3.     It destroys the intimacy of conjugal dialogue and uniqueness of the sexual language.
*      Human person uses several languages. The sexual gesture is the secret language reserved only for
        spouses. EMA becomes a betrayal of the secret.

4.     Contradicts the basic respect due for a Human person.
*      Person unique and non- exchangable
*      We exchange things but not persons
*      EMA- people regard others not as person but as a partner.


How healthy would a marriage be if the couple were unfaithful to their wedding vows?

In the Domain of Sexuality what is Jesus calling to us

           *    Neither sexual slavery nor sexual repression

          *    But Sexual Redemption

          *    Lust binds us to the true beauty of the human body & of the true marital love.

The Spouses are Ministers

         *    Ministers of Love and Life

         *   Marital COVENANT is a permanent band

         *   The Marital covenant mirrors the DIVINE Covenant The Christ- Church Union

         *   Married couple living sign  in the world

         *   Marriage - a living sign that communicate Permanence, togetherness and happiness

III. Fundamental task of the Family is to serve LIFE

  
*     Creator's purpose of  Sex ".... person to person giving...."

*     We have the Unitive and Procreative end of marriage

Fundamental Principles with regards to Sexual Union In Marriage

 1.        " Every marital act must be open to the transmission of life."

2.           One cannot separate from  the unitive end of the sexual act, the procreative end. (Both Inseparable)

3.           Safeguarding both these essential aspects ( unitive and procreative), the conjugal act conserves
              integrally the sense of mutual & true love, and its ordination to the highest vocation man and woman
              to parenthood.