Tuesday, March 17, 2020

PRE-MARITAL SEXUAL RELATIONS

Entered by those unmarried or in preparation for marriage.
Why is Pre-Marital Sex is Wrong?
1. They behave as spouses before they become.
     Sexual intercourse is a "typical expression"
     and unique to marital Union. Hence to   
     perform it they should be married couples,
2.  They distort and reduce the marriage  
      commitment.
*     The decisive act of self-giving and   
       acceptance is valid if expressed in 
       particular moment of time (celebration or
       sacrament) This commitment is not a
       private affair but has to be made publicly.
3.    They point to a false language.
*.     Sexual act is a language which is deep and
       Expressed between two married people.
*.     Sexual interaction uses a deep and 
       exclusive language. In PMS they use a 
       language and do not mean it. Therefore, it
       is cheating. They give their bodies but not 
       themselves. Therefore, no self-giving. It is
       dissection of the person, they give their
       body but not their inner selves.
4.   They act intentionally against the 
      Procreative and of marriage - use of 
      contraception 
5.   One cannot use persons, but only things. 
      The sexual gesture is done without any
      interior meaning.
6.   Such actions leave in them a deep sense of
      psychological incompleteness.
*.    whole person not involved.
*.    develop a 'playboy and playgirl psychology'

For those preparing for marriage the Church
would say: Genuine Love is tested by its 
openness to make sacrifices.

     

Wednesday, April 25, 2018

EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS

Adultery can be Single or Double depending on whether one or    both are married. Why is Extra-Marital Affair wrong?

1. The word given on the wedding day is a serious word. They contradict the significance of  the sexual gesture performed with the spouse.
Sexual gesture points to a reciprocal gift and interior union. Relationship with a third party contradicts it.
2. Sexual act in Marriage  expresses a fundamental option  for the spouse.
Extra Marital Act directly compromises two persons in reciprocal                      choice and self-donation.
3. It destroys the  intimacy of conjugal dialogue and uniqueness of the sexual language.
* Human person uses several languages. The Sexual gesture is the secret language reserved only for spouses. Extra- Marital Affairs becomes a betrayal of a secret.
4. Contradicts the basic respect due for a Human person.
- Person unique and non-exchangeable
- We exchange things but not persons
- Extra Marital Affair - people regard others not as a person but as a partner.

How healthy would a marriage be if the couple were unfaithful to their wedding vows?

In the   domain of    sexuality what is Jesus Calling us to?

* Neither sexual slavery nor sexual repression
* But Sexual Redemption
* Lust blinds us to the true beauty of the  human  body & of the true marital love.

The SPOUSES are MINISTERS

* MINISTERS of love and life
* Marital COVENANT is a permanent bond
* The marital covenant mirrors the DIVINE Covenant: The Christ-Church Union 
* Married couple a living sign in the world.
* Marriage - a loving sign that communicates Permanence,togetherness & happiness.

Sunday, February 25, 2018

Fundamental Principles with regards to Sexual Union in Marriage

1. "Every marital act must  be open to the transmission   of life"
2. One cannot separate from the unitive end of the sexual act, the procreative end. (Both inseparable)
3. Safeguarding both  these essential aspects (unitive and procreative),the conjugal act conserves integrally the sense of mutual & true love, and its ordination to the highest vocation of man and woman.

Sunday, October 29, 2017

Married Couples are co-creators - entrusted the care of children.

.  Choice for LIFE means choice for Procreation & Responsible Parenthood.
.  In Contraception procreative - end frustrated.
.  Contraception     defeats the purpose of Marriage - which for total self - giving.
.  Contraception makes the sacred marital act unworthy because it depreciates the
    PERSON, degrades him/her to an object of pleasure.
.  The Church invites couples to understand their fertility patterns & use Creative
   Natural Fertility Management (CNFM) or Natural Family planning(NFP)
   which should be a way of life.



Tuesday, November 22, 2016

SPOUSES SHOULD ALWAYS RECALL "HOW DID JESUS - GOD LOVES US?

*   Freely : "No one takes my life from me., I lay it down on my own."

*  Fully (Unconditionally): "I give myself to you without reservation: body ,soul                                               and divinity"
*  Faithfully : "I will be with you always, until the end of time."

*   Fruitfully:  "I have laid down my life so that my bride may have life and have                           it to the   full."

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

WHAT Do COUPLES PLEDGE TO THE ALTAR?

"I...come before you freely and without reservation (fully)...and I promise to be faithful...open to my children that God wants to give us (fruitful)."


. Every sexual intercourse is a renewal of the wedding vows taken at the altar.


LAST WORD....


As Jesus Christ said, "I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.>>(John 10:10). Baptism gives us new life in Christ. That life involves far more than simply following a set of rules. It is about understanding our calling and living as free human beings not tied down by any bond,ages, and making LOVE our fundamental option. Married couples have to fight this "culture of death by giving witness to a life - giving Marriage and help build stable, happy & Christ - Centered families.

Thursday, October 6, 2016

STRONG MARRIAGE

If a family begins with a marriage, a strong family begins with a strong marriage. A marriage can only be strong if each spouse gives 150%. A good marriage is selfless and without sin , therefore no artificial contraception, nor even the desire to regulate children, unless there is a grave reason. Children    are no   longer something to try to avoid for a certain time, but rather they became the blessings, the gifts from God that they were meant to be. Gifts to be enjoyed and loved. The marriage provides the initial example; it is the first teacher, and it sets the tone for what a child sees as normal life. Parents must have a hap[py (although not perfect) marriage. Let our Lord fill the voids with His love. The closer they are to living with faith and God's Will,the happier they will be. Have you ever seen a selfish person be happy? Or an angry person?

Marriage is a natural sacrament of divine love.

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